I want so badly for everyone to love meditation. I know. I know. We all should explore different coping skills that work for us, and utilize the skills that we love. But, I would be lying if I told you I didn't try to get all of my clients on board with meditation and mindfulness :D :D

If you feel inclined to, I do hope that you get to make some time to practice mindfulness today. Sometimes we think that meditating means sitting on a cushion, closing our eyes, listening to a guided meditation, and focusing on our breath. There's definitely value in that.

But! I think it could be other things. Lately, I've been loving being mindful as I wash my hands-- really feeling my feet on the ground and noticing my breath, the warm water, the bubbles, the colors. Practicing loving kindness meditation as I wash my hands-- also great. May we all be happy. May we all be safe. May we all be healthy. May we all live with ease.

D e e p b r e a t h s.

It could be washing the dishes in a mindful way. Going on the patio and really being immersed in nature, paying attention to the birds, the trees, the kids running around playing, smiling at our neighbors, and being grateful to be able to witness this moment. Being grateful to be in this moment.

It could be writing. Noticing the words on the paper, the colors, the curves of the letters, as you also notice sensations throughout your body, or notice your other senses -- the smells, the sounds, the flavors in your mouth.

Singing in a mindful way. Dancing. Listening to your favorite song.

Close your eyes.


You're here.

You've arrived.

There's nothing to do.

There's nowhere to be.

Sit here with me.

And, breathe.

This week, I thought often of.... thoughts :D

One of the things that our brain likes to do is generate thoughts. It's been found that we have about 60,000 thoughts a day. And, most of these thoughts are repetitive. The same narratives or stories that we tell ourselves come up again and again throughout the day. We ruminate and worry and catastrophize on the same things over and over again. Which, as you can imagine, is overwhelming and contributes to significant depression and anxiety.

Some folks believe that thoughts are behaviors, just like emotional eating is a behavior. Or, binge drinking. Or, binge watching Netflix. Or, exercising. If thoughts are behaviors, it's fair to say that the same way that we attempt to change the behavior of eating when feeling lonely or stress, we can also attempt to change the behavior of thinking.

The way that we relate to our thoughts is crucial. Most times, we identify with our thoughts. We become our thoughts. So much so that it can be impossible to separate or put distance between what we think and who we actually are, outside of our thoughts. I can have this thought: I'm a horrible person, but is that really who I am?

I've been telling many folks this week that our thoughts are like the squirrels we see out there on our walks. When we see a squirrel, we typically let it go on their merry way as we continue on our own journeys. What if we practiced noticing thoughts like that, and letting them go? Like, oh. Here goes another squirrel. Ooh! Another one. And yet, another squirrel.

Another popular way to think of this way of relating to our thoughts is imagining leaves on a stream. We can practice putting our thoughts on leaves and watching them float away. We can practice watching our thoughts drive away if we place them on cars. Or, practice watching them walk away if we place them on people.

Below, I explore a mindfulness activity, and reflect on another helpful way to relate to our thoughts.

So press play, and breathe with me :)

It’s Mother’s Day!

One, I wished someone a happy mother’s day, and was reminded that for many of us, today isn’t necessarily happy. If you're someone who's grieving when any parent day comes around, I'm with you. And, if you like hugs, know that I'm sending you well wishes and sending you the biggest virtual hug possible.

And, two -- I want to share these new reflections with you: Therapist Musings. Once or twice a month, I plan to put out a short video about anything that may be on my mind for the month. If you'd like me to discuss anything, feel free to also reach out to me, and I'll do my darndest to reply to your own musings.

This particular musing was influenced by the holistic psychologist's meditation on self-parenting or re-parenting.

Here's to you being kind to yourself, as you parent yourself in the best way you can, and as you walk with your own traumas.

Subscribe to get updates or to connect with  a clinical psychologist!

 2020 © Bel Esprit Psychological Services, PLLC

Privacy Policy

All Rights Reserved